You’re not BARBIE and he’s not KEN!

You’re not BARBIE and he’s not KEN! Sometimes women mistakenly believe there is an ideal female image, and they should clone themselves to look like her. Did you play with Barbie dolls when you were young? You may subconsciously believe that the ideal woman has a tiny waist and proportionately over-sized boobs, all supported by …

Is COMPATIBILITY the Key to Happy Relationships?

Is compatibility the key to Happy Relationships? The concept of compatibility (matching interests) is used by most online dating websites, to find an ideal partner. This assumption, of compatibility as the relationship key, is also used by most matchmakers. They attempt to match interests, religion, height, hobbies, culture, and age, etc. There is no doubt …

When You Really Love Yourself, Magic Happens

Frankly, I find this saying really annoying, because, of course, everybody would love themselves…if they knew how! So, why don’t we know how? Because, early in our childhood we received numerous messages that we weren’t okay. Not perfect enough, or well behaved, or good looking, or not smart, or whatever. Back then we were too …

Healing from Drinking the Deadly Poison of Unforgiveness

“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” This quote has been attributed to many different people, from Buddha to Nelson Mandela. But regardless of who said it, holding onto bitterness and resentment will corrode your insides. So…WHY do we hang onto the resentment and refuse to forgive? Many …

What Is Your Relationship with Your Body?

Your most basic relationship, is the one with your own body. This week is my birthday and I’m going to be 71. Yikes! Is that possible? In my mind I’m not even 50…maybe 45. On Gloria Steinem’s 40th birthday, someone commented that she didn’t look 40. She responded by saying, “No, this is what 40 …

What Other People Think of You Is None of Your Business

What Other People Think of You Is None of Your Business

Imagine for a minute that you are a Hollywood star. The news media makes their money by taking pictures and writing stories about you. When you buy groceries, you see pictures of yourself on the cover of magazines. You are constantly in the press! Some of the pictures and stories are flattering, but some of …